Stop Causing Stress for Yourself

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Man has come a long way from the times when he was a hunter or gatherer for food for his community and family. We now live in a fast paced world of communication and computers and gizmos. However, man lived as a cave man for more years than he has in buildings and there are many physical and mental aspects that have not kept pace with the rate at which we are inventing modern day gadgets and conveniences. From physically hunting in the jungles we have moved diametrically opposite to sitting at our desks to earn money that will buy us food and a whole host of other new needs, wants and desires that we have. The fact that our bodies have not been able to keep pace with the changing environment is the root cause of most of the stress that is caused.

To add to it all, we tend to play a role in augmenting this feeling of stress and make things worse. We need to understand and appreciate that each one of us has a basic reason to get stressed and we need to reduce the possibilities as much possible instead of increasing them. Unknowingly, there are certain things that we do and think that increase stress. To put a stop to them, think of the following:

Do you try and be perfect all the time? Do you sulk when you get rank two because you did not get rank one? Pushing yourself to do achieve what you set out to, is all fine but by making it an obsession, you can cause yourself a great deal of stress that will not help you achieve the things that you wanted to. Don’t try and take on more than you can handle. It is like creating situations leading to failure causing negativity and situations that lower self-esteem.

Whose goals are you gunning for? Don’t get trapped in the rat race to achieve something that the world thinks is right or is the expected thing to go for. Don’t even think of what your parents, spouse and close associates want you to be. For this particular decision, listen to only your own self and what you inner voice tells you.

Are you the kind who feels that making other people around your happy is your responsibility? Well, if the answer to this is yes, then you need to stop immediately. Other people around you are mature grown up individuals and their happiness depends on them. Don’t feel down and stressed out because you have not been able to make everyone happy. That is almost an impossible task to achieve by anyone.

Helping other people around you and trying to achieve what you set out to is a good aspect of yourself. But setting unachievable goals and trying to make everyone happy is something that will only lead you to a path of failure. Recognize that and set realistic goals for yourself and reduce stress.