Faced with a problem, we tend to look for help from someone, somewhere. However, the greatest source of strength that we can find is ourselves. Building a strong relationship with self where we are not distracted by the external entities is most important.
The external world tries to lure us, continuously. There are events that occur that are too strong and stunning. A breaking news, larger than life characters, fairy tale stories and colorful stimulus from television and advertisements are all examples of situations that do not allow us to relax and meditate. We ourselves have built a long list of things to do that keep us from taking some time to talk to ourselves. We have to go to work, take our children for a picnic, handle office politics and influence others to manipulate them. These and a host of other expectations from ourselves do not allow us to really connect with ourselves.
Another aspect of the way we function that keeps us from being able to concentrate within is the fact that we either seem to yearn for the past or dream of the future or be apprehensive about it. Only by being in the present moment can we connect with our inner self and thereby unleash the creative power within us.
However, turning our focus inwards and in the present moment does not come easily. Your mind has been living its own way since so many years and it takes a great deal of commitment and effort to turn your focus in the present moment. But when you do, you’ll begin to make the highest spiritual choices for your life. By engaging in activities that draw you closer to yourself, you not only create a strong attachment to your inner world, you learn that you can trust yourself to handle any situation. So take action and start giving time to yourself!
Question: How can I set right a tangle that is entirely below my level of consciousness?
Nisargadatta Maharaj: By being with your self, by watching yourself in your daily life with alert interest, with the intention to understand rather than to judge, in full acceptance of whatever may emerge because it is there, you encourage the deep to come to the surface and enrich your life in consciousness with its captive energies.
This is great work of awareness. It removes obstacles and releases energies by understanding the nature of life and mind. Intelligence is the door to freedom and alert attention is the mother of intelligence.
— From the book Wherever You Go There You Are by John Kabat-Zin.